If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode. Most...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

Did you know that you can apply for disability living allowance (PIP) if your child needs help above and beyond what would typically be...

Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

I love this quote by Haim Ginott (1922-1973) - a teacher, psychologist, and psychotherapist who was passionate about educational...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

Looking for a resource to help with conversations about consent? There are some interesting videos out there using 'a cup of tea' to open...

It’s tempting to compare ourselves, our parenting, our children, to others. But we don’t all experience things the same. We don’t all...

Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

The four parenting styles are fairly well-known. Permissive (top left) is an approach to parenting where there’s a lot of warmth,...

Don't compare how you feel on the inside to how others appear on the outside. Remember - what people present on social media is a poor...