“The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.” This is an interesting one that’s going to land differently depending on...

I had a conversation with a parent this week they said “I don’t like who I become when my child pushes me to my limits?” It got me...

“Don’t believe everything you think.” This little quote, on a pin badge my other half bought me for Christmas, has been sitting with me...

It’s been a bumpy ride over the past few months. My girls lost their mum unexpectedly late last year. There’s this idea that children who...

I was talking to a friend yesterday - an adopter and fellow NVR practitioner. I can’t tag her because she doesn’t have a page. The...

Happy New Year from one courageous parent to another. This year, I’ve seen so much quiet courage - tough decisions that needed to be...

“Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind” – Brene Brown This quote comes to mind often, because it’s so true - for our young people but also for...

How was your Christmas? I’m not sure that a drama-free Christmas is possible for families raising children with significant early trauma....

A Christmas shout out to teachers. One of the inadequate tools that teachers are trying to work with is school behaviour policies. Had a...

A reminder that children who are grieving continue to grieve over Christmas. Adults too. In our home, Christmas needs to be a quiet and...

As babies and children learn new things, their brain grows. There's a time for learning different things and if the opportunity's there...

Content warning - suicide. Having recently discovered and started to engage in the world of AI, I'm impressed. Chat GPT and Copilot are...

As we get ready for the magic of Christmas, here’s a helpful list for mums and dads - a reminder that the joyful season isn’t always so...

I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that...

I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs,...

One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...

In an NVR group for kinship/connected carers we talked about the importance of venting. Sometimes we don’t want advice - we just want to...

The stories we tell ourselves matter. Whether emotions shape our narrative or our narrative shapes our emotions is up for debate. But one...

Let’s face it - expressions of anger in our children can be overwhelming. The shouting, stomping, crashing and banging. The “I hate you...