Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...

A level results in our house today. I’m in awe of those that did well and in awe of those that didn’t do so well. It’s difficult for...

Relationship gestures - a fancy term for all the things we do that keep us deeply connected to our children - are fundamental to NVR. A...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

Did you know that you can apply for disability living allowance (PIP) if your child needs help above and beyond what would typically be...

Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

It’s tempting to compare ourselves, our parenting, our children, to others. But we don’t all experience things the same. We don’t all...

Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...

If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...

Sometimes we know how we want to deal with things as parents. We know what we need to do and what we should avoid doing. We can picture...

If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...