Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...

When children are experienced as delightful, when that’s communicated through words & actions, children experience themselves as...

We’ve got a reactive cavapoo who barks a lot when anybody walks past the house, especially if they’ve got a dog. Initially there was no...

My conscious thinking brain knows this. My unconscious emotional brain sometimes doesn't. When we're feeling wound up by our kids it's...

Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

Children’s brains are wired differently to adult brains. The bits of the brain that help us manage our emotions and impulses, reflect on...

This right here is the key to therapeutic parenting - saying yes to the feelings (or ideas, or thoughts, or wishes, or drives) while also...

Parents often ask if it's okay to use consequences in NVR parenting. Consequences are part of life. We can't avoid them. Consequences are...

What a beautiful illustration by Hazel Mead. Reminding us to always to consider what's going on underneath the surface, to look beyond...

Therapeutic parents are encouraged to share their calm to coregulate their dysregulated child. They might be very distressed. They might...

This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

Relationship gestures - a fancy term for all the things we do that keep us deeply connected to our children - are fundamental to NVR. A...

If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...

I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...