“The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.” This is an interesting one that’s going to land differently depending on...

I had a conversation with a parent this week they said “I don’t like who I become when my child pushes me to my limits?” It got me...

I was talking to a friend yesterday - an adopter and fellow NVR practitioner. I can’t tag her because she doesn’t have a page. The...

Happy New Year from one courageous parent to another. This year, I’ve seen so much quiet courage - tough decisions that needed to be...

“Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind” – Brene Brown This quote comes to mind often, because it’s so true - for our young people but also for...

A reminder that children who are grieving continue to grieve over Christmas. Adults too. In our home, Christmas needs to be a quiet and...

Content warning - suicide. Having recently discovered and started to engage in the world of AI, I'm impressed. Chat GPT and Copilot are...

As we get ready for the magic of Christmas, here’s a helpful list for mums and dads - a reminder that the joyful season isn’t always so...

NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs,...

One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...

In an NVR group for kinship/connected carers we talked about the importance of venting. Sometimes we don’t want advice - we just want to...

The stories we tell ourselves matter. Whether emotions shape our narrative or our narrative shapes our emotions is up for debate. But one...

Finished an incredible journey with a neurodivergent family this week. We started working together about a year ago. At that point every...

I've got NVR groups underway, new individual families as well as existing families, I’m just restarting university for the second/last...

Deciding where to set our expectations for our children can be tricky when there's trauma, disabilities, and other things going on like...

Learning to feel safe after a lifetime of being on guard is going to take time. In adoption, fostering, or kinship care - “a lifetime of...

We all make mistakes as parents. We all have regrets. We all feel shame sometimes. Give yourself permission to move on from the parent...

Carl Jung said everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. It’s true. Sometimes things...

If the only tool you have is a hammer, it's tempting to treat every problem as though it were a nail. A quote often attributed to Abraham...

Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...