This statement can really help to shift our nervous system state when we’re struggling with children’s behaviour. I think there are few,...

There's no blame or shame in NVR - there’s no blaming or shaming of parents and there’s no blaming or shaming of children. When our...

If you want your kids to feel good about themselves then let them overhear you tell other people good things about them - the ways...

The terminology around children's harmful behaviour is tricky and language matters. The language we use influences whether families...

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

This is a really hard one for parents/carers of children who struggle to regulate their emotions or manage their behaviour in safe and...

A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s...

This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

Children don’t need perfection. If we can manage safe and predicable most of the time, avoiding all forms of abuse and neglect, taking...

If you have a teenager, or a handful of teenagers, you'll know that teenagers aren't very often pleased to see us. If your self worth was...

Being told to make space for self care when things are difficult can feel shallow & it can highlight just how little people understand...

Today is world siblings day. When children can’t live with their parents, the decision whether to keep brothers and sisters together in a...

It takes a village to raise a child, any child, but especially a traumatised child. We can’t do it alone. We need other people who can...

Birthdays can be interesting times in adoptive families (whatever the legal framework - adoption, fostering, or kinship care). Loss can...