Happy New Year from one courageous parent to another. This year, I’ve seen so much quiet courage - tough decisions that needed to be...

“Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind” – Brene Brown This quote comes to mind often, because it’s so true - for our young people but also for...

In an NVR group for kinship/connected carers we talked about the importance of venting. Sometimes we don’t want advice - we just want to...

The stories we tell ourselves matter. Whether emotions shape our narrative or our narrative shapes our emotions is up for debate. But one...

Let’s face it - expressions of anger in our children can be overwhelming. The shouting, stomping, crashing and banging. The “I hate you...

Emotion coaching has come up a few times this week in work with parents. When the first emotion we see and feel from our children is...

Deciding where to set our expectations for our children can be tricky when there's trauma, disabilities, and other things going on like...

Where there’s family violence, there’s shame. Children can be violent and aggressive for all sorts of reasons. For some children big...

Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...

We’ve got a reactive cavapoo who barks a lot when anybody walks past the house, especially if they’ve got a dog. Initially there was no...

Researcher Brene Brown came up with the acronym ‘BRAVING’ - seven elements of trusting relationships. I think it’s a useful tool to...

There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

I love this but… Yes - and no. Let’s keep the measure of success to things we can control. Children with significant levels of trauma,...

I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

In NVR parenting, change starts with us - the adults. When you hear that, what does it bring up in you? It's easy to conclude that if...