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elainenichollsnvr
Jan 43 min read
Vigilant care
I was talking to a friend yesterday - an adopter and fellow NVR practitioner. I can’t tag her because she doesn’t have a page. The...

elainenichollsnvr
Nov 17, 20242 min read
How to be angry
Let’s face it - expressions of anger in our children can be overwhelming. The shouting, stomping, crashing and banging. The “I hate you...

elainenichollsnvr
Sep 30, 20242 min read
Accept your humanity
Some children need ‘Superparents’ - the premise of Amber Elliot’s book for therapeutic parents. But striving to be the perfect parent for...

elainenichollsnvr
Sep 10, 20242 min read
Two things can be true
Those of us parenting children who’ve experienced relational trauma can sometimes struggle to decide how to respond to behaviours that...

elainenichollsnvr
Aug 25, 20242 min read
Self-fulfilling prophecy in NVR
I love this quote by Karyn Purvis - an expert in developmental trauma, attachment difficulties, and therapeutic approaches. She was one...

elainenichollsnvr
Aug 23, 20242 min read
NVR chat - follow up group for parents
Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

elainenichollsnvr
Aug 19, 20242 min read
Say yes to the feelings
This right here is the key to therapeutic parenting - saying yes to the feelings (or ideas, or thoughts, or wishes, or drives) while also...

elainenichollsnvr
Aug 15, 20242 min read
Grades don't define you
A level results in our house today. I’m in awe of those that did well and in awe of those that didn’t do so well. It’s difficult for...

elainenichollsnvr
Aug 7, 20242 min read
Children who need love the most...
Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...

elainenichollsnvr
Jul 5, 20241 min read
Letting go
There's a lot of letting go in NVR. One of the things we can let go of is the idea that we're responsible for the actions and responses...

elainenichollsnvr
Jul 4, 20242 min read
Disability support
Did you know that you can apply for disability living allowance (PIP) if your child needs help above and beyond what would typically be...

elainenichollsnvr
Jul 2, 20241 min read
Achieving better connections
Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for...

elainenichollsnvr
Jun 23, 20241 min read
Mindful parenting
I’ve been doing a lot of driving lately - a lot - and I’ve been listening to audiobooks to make the most of the time. So far I’m still on...

elainenichollsnvr
Jun 10, 20242 min read
You can't do everything
I don’t believe we can do everything. Actually, I don't believe we can do anything either. I have my limitations and I believe we all do....

elainenichollsnvr
May 30, 20241 min read
Parental presence
This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the...

elainenichollsnvr
Apr 10, 20242 min read
Adopting siblings
Today is world siblings day. When children can’t live with their parents, the decision whether to keep brothers and sisters together in a...

elainenichollsnvr
Apr 6, 20242 min read
Realistic therapeutic parenting
Parenting is hard. Really hard. Therapeutic parenting is beyond hard. In all the therapeutic parenting advice (specific to...
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