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Now you see me...
I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that...

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Nov 25, 20241 min read


Tigers and teddy bears
I love Suzanne Zeedyk's analogy of tigers and teddy bears to explain attachment. Unique and highly personal neural pathways significantly...

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Nov 24, 20242 min read


It’s not about what happened to us as children
One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what...

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Nov 21, 20242 min read


NVR chat - follow up group for parents
Today I did something I've been meaning to do for a while. I set up a Facebook group for parents who've completed an NVR parent group...

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Aug 23, 20242 min read


The measure of parenting success
A quote by lived experience trauma therapist Glenn Patrick Doyle - "We're not ourselves when we're triggered. We become who we think we...

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Jul 1, 20241 min read


I'm so sorry
Apologies cover a multitude of parent mistakes and parent dysregulation. We all have ‘stuff’ that drives everything from behind the...

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May 26, 20241 min read


Tolerating big feelings
If there’s one thing children provide parents with it’s the opportunity for growth. Plenty of growth. Especially if we're parenting...

elainenichollsnvr
Apr 9, 20241 min read
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